Looking for tips for dating an older man? You just started dating an older man for the first time but worry that you’re ill-equipped for what the relationship will entail. Fear not! Because you’re already dating, it’s clear that you’re awesome and will be just fine, despite your age difference. If that doesn’t put your nerves at ease, here are a couple tips for dating a “seasoned” Mr. Right.
- 1. Be patient
One of the biggest allures for younger women dating older men is the fact that older men tend to be more established. While you initially marvel over his fancy home and career, you will quickly learn that he must work hard (and often) to pay the bills and continue climbing the corporate ladder. Sometimes, this means less attention for you and almost always means that you and bew cannot be together every waking moment. If you want to make the relationship work, you have to be understanding of his time. Don’t whine if he can’t stay up chatting with you until 4am every night. Instead, work out a schedule to ensure that you both are able to spend time with one another without compromising your individual responsibilities.
- 2. Be spontaneous
While this applies in any relationship, it is especially important when dating an older man. With so many different things to do every week, you don’t want to become just another «task» on his to-do list. Every now and then, stray away from the norm and add an element of spontaneity. It could be something simple like trying a new restaurant for your weekend date, or something drastic like showing up to his work place for lunch in a sexy black dress. Just keep him on his toes! He’ll thank you for it.
- 3. Do not constantly remind him of your age gap
If you both have agreed to begin dating, you have moved past whatever age gap you may have. It can come across as insecure (and insensitive) if you constantly remind your man that you weren’t born when his favorite song was released or that you were only in elementary school when he was trying out for the high school football team. You also run the risk of making your man feel like an old man, which could be awkward for the both of you. Play it cool and keep the age jokes to a minimum.
- 4. Do enjoy the conversation
Many young women are attracted to older men because of their great conversation. This is your chance to talk about all the nerdy things your friends your age rather not talk about. Because let’s face it: most 20 year olds are not interested in talking about buying their first home, 401(k) plans or even traveling the world. This is the stuff your older man would LOVE to talk about. So, here’s your chance! Let your inner nerd/responsible adult loose!
- 5. Do show off your domestic skills
Not to say that a woman NEEDS to know how to cook and clean in order to entice any man, but it’s certainly an attractive trait when men are looking for the woman they want to marry and raise their future families. So, show off your skills in the kitchen! Your older man is sure to appreciate it.
- 6. Be supportive
Because an older man is literally in a different place in his life than you, he may eventually through some changes that you are yet to experience. Whether it’s a career change or a midlife crisis, the best thing you can do is to always remain supportive.
- 7. Be yourself
Despite your difference in age, you both have accepted one another for who you are. Do not feel pressured to give up your «young-life» to conform to what you think your older man wants. Instead, keep being yourself and always keep an open line of communication between one another. Your bew obviously was (and still is!) attracted to your spirit, so don’t start being a different person just because he’s a little older. Remaining true to who YOU are is key.
Always remember that every relationship is different and approach each one as such. The same rings true of dating an older man. Once you get into the swing of it, everything else will come natural. While these tips aren’t the end all be all for every relationship, they are certainly a start when it comes to dealing with an older man. Best wishes!